Hi larissa mchaney,
I can understand why this has been so frustrating, especially after spending hours being redirected between the app and the website.
The setting you need may be easier to find in the Xbox Family Settings app, rather than the Microsoft Family Safety app. Sign in with the adult account that is listed as an organizer, select your child’s profile, then go to: Settings > Content restrictions > Manage Minecraft
From there, enable Multiplayer. If your child needs to join a Minecraft Realm, also enable Clubs. If Minecraft itself is restricted by the age filter, turn on Allow game as well.
After saving the changes, have your child sign out of Minecraft and the Xbox app, then sign back in before testing again.
If the Manage Minecraft option is not shown, please check that the adult account is an organizer and that the child’s Microsoft account appears as a member of the same family group. Thank you so much for your understanding.
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